Stressed? Even though this part of your life should be filled with wisdom and grace, it’s important to acknowledge the unique challenges that may come our way. So let’s jump into a topic that resonates with many of us – coping with anxiety. Stress and anxiety can be hard to manage in midlife and beyond. We thought we would be done with all the worries and trauma by now. And while there is no magic wand I can wave to take it all away, I do have some insight here that just might help. So grab your coffee or tea, (or wine!) find a comfy spot, and let’s have a chat.

The 50s and beyond mark a period of transition with changes in hormones, relationships, and life roles. It’s entirely normal for anxiety to make an appearance during such times. (Or, reappearance. That’s me.🤯) Our bodies and minds are adjusting to a new normal, and it’s okay to feel a little uncertain. It doesn’t seem fair to have to deal with those ruminating thoughts over things you can’t control at this point in your life. But really, that’s just another thing you can’t control, right? Here’s why I think I can help…

My Anxiety Story

Back in my early 30’s, I felt like I was supermom. I had five kids, was running a home design business on the side, and I felt like one of the most competent women I knew.

And then one morning, I noticed my hands shaking while I put on my makeup. And it didn’t go away. I had always been a worrier. I never slept well, and I had my share of trauma. But I never even thought of “anxiety”. My doctor ran some tests, but when he didn’t find anything, he wanted me to try an SSRI antidepressant for “stress”. Ok, I thought, couldn’t hurt, why not? Three days later I had reacted to the medication and was so overcome by anxiety that I spent the next few days curled up in a ball on my bed.

Apparently, the medication reaction unleashed 30+ years of a growing anxiety disorder, and boy did it take off. I was afraid to leave my house, so I made myself leave every day. I avoided friends and family, and I concentrated on not letting my young kids see what I was going through. Every waking moment was about stopping that sick feeling in my gut, scared of the world. I spent a year and a half in therapy, working with anxiety medications, trying every course, reading every book, trying to find a way to heal. It took me that long to realize that anxiety is part of me, and that the way to get ahead of it was to not fear it. To make friends with it. To stop seeing it as a weakness. To stop seeing myself as weak.

Eventually, I found my way through and learned to deal with stress and anxiety in a better way. That coping with anxiety was possible. For years, I hardly even thought about it. And then I hit menopause. And it was back.

Not all the time, but hovering in the background. Waiting for just one stressful event to push me into a shaking, frightened version of myself. And what I came to realize is that growing older is a huge change. Not only did I have the hormones of menopause shifting, but I was dealing with issues with both chronic pain and depression. My body was changing, and not in a way I liked at the time. I had recently gotten remarried, my kids were all grown and starting to have kids of their own, and my parents were aging. We moved across the state, then moved three more times. All that can really mess with your brain chemicals.

But the difference was, I had the tools. I knew that anxiety is a constantly changing thing. I knew I could get past it. Eventually. I would like to say I did, (past tense) but the truth is, I am. Every day I am getting past it. And I want to share with you what works for me.

Coping with Anxiety for Women Over 50+

• It’s crucial to recognize and validate our feelings. Anxiety can manifest in various ways – from restlessness to racing thoughts. By acknowledging these emotions, we empower ourselves to address them effectively. Let’s remember, it’s okay not to be okay sometimes, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Give yourself the same compassion you’d offer a friend.
• Now, let’s talk mindset – it’s like having your own superhero cape. Your mindset shapes your reality. Think of it as the lens through which you view the world. By adopting a positive mindset, you’re putting on those superhero shades, ready to face challenges with a can-do attitude. As we age, nurturing our mental and physical well-being becomes increasingly important. Coping with anxiety includes activities that promote a positive mind-body connection can be transformative. Whether it’s gentle yoga, meditation, or a leisurely stroll in nature, finding what resonates with you can be a game-changer in managing anxiety. For me, just getting outside can break the anxiety cycle.
• When anxiety knocks, it’s time to flip the script.  Instead of dwelling on “what if” scenarios, let’s focus on “what can be.” When you are anxious about something, the truth is that you are worried you can’t handle it. You can. Imagine yourself finding solutions. Positive affirmations for anxiety are your secret weapon. Remind yourself of your strengths, past victories, and the fact that you’re a powerhouse. You’ve got this!
• We’ve spent decades building relationships, and now is the time to lean on those connections. Sharing our thoughts and concerns with trusted friends and family, or even seeking professional guidance can provide a fresh perspective and a comforting hand to hold. Remember, you are not alone on this journey. So, BFF Time: Build a Support Crew. Support is like a good playlist – it makes everything better.
• In the hustle and bustle of life, we often put others first. However, self-care isn’t a buzzword; it’s a necessity. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Whether it’s reading a good book, pursuing a hobby, or enjoying a spa day, prioritizing self-care is a powerful way to alleviate anxiety. Pamper Yourself, You Deserve It.  Treat yourself like the queen you are. It’s time to put yourself at the top of the to-do list. You’ve earned it!
• Ever notice how a gratitude mindset can turn things around? Take a moment each day to reflect on the positive aspects of your life. It’s like a mental reset button that shifts your focus from worry to appreciation. Gratitude is the key to unlocking a more optimistic outlook.
• Anxiety often creeps in when our minds wander to the future or linger in the past. Bring yourself back to the present with mindfulness. Embrace the now, savor the small joys, and let go of what you can’t control. (And that is most things!) The present moment is where your power lies.

Affirmations for Anxiety in Women

Here are 20 affirmations specifically crafted to help women manage anxiety:

1. I am worthy of peace and tranquility in my life.
2. I trust in my ability to overcome any challenges that come my way.
3. My strength and resilience guide me through moments of anxiety.
4. I release all worries and embrace the present moment with positivity.
5. I am surrounded by love and support from those who care about me.
6. Every breath I take fills me with calmness and clarity.
7. I am capable of handling whatever life throws at me.
8. I choose to let go of fear and embrace feelings of inner peace.
9. I honor my emotions and allow myself to feel them without judgment.
10. I am deserving of self-care and nurture my mind, body, and soul.
11. I trust the universe has a plan for me, and everything will work out for the best.
12. I am not defined by my anxiety; I am defined by my strength and resilience.
13. I release tension from my body and welcome relaxation with open arms.
14. I let go of the past and embrace the endless possibilities of the future.
15. I am a beacon of light, spreading peace and positivity to those around me.

As you learn ways for coping with anxiety, remember that mindset is your trusty partner. Embrace the power of positivity, flip the script on anxious thoughts, and savor the beauty of the present moment. With a mindset focused on growth, self-compassion, and gratitude, you’re not just facing anxiety – you’re conquering it. For the first time, or the 100th time, the process is the same. Here’s to a mindset that shines as bright as you do! 🌟💪

You might want to read my posts on 25 Best Confident Woman Quotes and Why Mindset is Everything, Flipping the Script on Negative Thinking.

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