After 50, I felt… a little empty. I felt…over. I mean, I knew intellectually that wasn’t true, but it’s still how I felt. I was beyond getting dinner on the table for the kids, or running this one to baseball practice and that one to driving lessons. I even had had a successful business. But I wanted it all to mean something. To feel fulfilled. And if I felt that way, I knew other middle-aged women over 50 did too.

Changing When You Are a Woman Over 50

I wondered, if I could, what contribution would I make to this world, what would I do?

Whose life would I change?

And then I had the answer…

Mine.

You can’t take care of, or give to others, if you aren’t taking care of yourself, right? Isn’t that what we are told? Take mental health days, take long baths, take walks. But I feel like it goes much deeper than that for women over 50. We have to find our way to our true selves, we have to be amazing FOR ourselves, before we can be amazing for others. And that’s where we start ladies. Becoming unapologetically you. Maybe for the first time?

Is that selfish?

Why is it that middle-aged women are always placed in one of two boxes… we are judged as selfish, or self sacrificing. Why does it have to be one or the other? I believe a healthy life has some of both.

What Does It Mean to Be a Middle Girl?

We are “The Middle Girls”. What does that even mean? Well, quite simply, we are middle-aged women in a new stage of our lives. We are stuck in the middle, not knowing where we belong. It feels like a no-womans land, where we are neither young nor are we old. We don’t feel like we have the energy or joy in living that we did in our 20’s, 30’s and 40’s, but neither do we feel done. We are, The Middle Girls. And honestly, I have figured out that is a pretty awesome place to be.

Why? Because we live in a time when we can write our own script for what comes next. WE get to make the rules. We get to set our own goals. But first, we have some learning to do, AND some unlearning. But in the end, we get to take control of our lives. But that also means we have to take responsibility. 

We want to make a difference. The hard part is the undoing of old thoughts and patterns. The narrative that’s been there since you were a little girl, telling you that you are a little bit less. A little bit small. A little bit incompetent. A little bit invisible. So that’s where we are going to start. Undoing old thoughts and patterns. Change the narrative in our heads. And then… the sky truly is the limit.

We. Are. Not. Done.

We are not done. We are not done leaving our mark, we are not done making a difference, we are not done with our legacy. We are not done feeling beautiful, we aren’t done feeling sexy, we are not done feeling smart and bold and happy. We. Are. Not. Done.

KWB

So let me take what I’ve learned and share it with you. Let me help you learn to feel like you are a woman over 50 living a remarkable life. The first step?

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